Deciding that you want to divorce your husband is a big decision that really changes a lot of things in your life. It’s important to get into it as emotionally prepared as possible. Here are a few practical and free divorce advice for women on how to divorce your husband:
Find a lawyer – This is especially true if you expect your husband to resist the divorce process. Most of the times, it’s better to have a professional help you work the system. You’ll get a better idea of what happens during the process, what you can expect, and how you can best prepare for it.
Talk to a therapist – At times you need to find a way to deal with the loss and uncertainty first before facing other people. Going through a divorce doesn’t just involve knowing the technicalities of how to divorce your husband or how to get a divorce but also learning to feel your way through the emotional ups and downs that you are about to face. Talking to a therapist helps a lot.
Get a P.O. box – Ideally, you should get a P.O. box address in a town that’s different from where you and your spouse usually get mail. It’s advisable to have all your divorce documents forwarded to this new address.
Get a copy of your credit report – This is a very important part of the process of divorcing your husband. With an updated copy of your credit report, you can see if your husband used your details to apply for another credit card, how much debt you actually have, and if you have a debt that you don’t know about.
Open your own bank account – It’s best if you open a bank account from a different bank that you and your husband share. Separating finances can be a rough process. Setting up your own account is a good and necessary first step to take.
Acquire copies of important documents – Your divorce lawyer will give you a list of documents that you need to copy. Secure a copy of all important documents and store them in a safe place which is not accessible to your husband (like your parents’ house, your lawyer, or your own safe which you don’t share with your husband).
Talk to a financial advisor – A financial advisor can give you a better picture of your financial situation, find tax issues, and help you strategize for financial independence. At this point, you should also be planning on how you can continue paying for your legal expenses as well as how much you need to be able to live independently and comfortably, especially if you have children.
Make an inventory of your personal property – List down personal properties like jewelry you inherited, items that were given as gifts, etcetera. It would be best if you can take dated photos of each piece of property that you consider your own which are expensive or have sentimental value and keep them in a catalog so that when it’s time for property division, you can quickly find items that are missing or have been sold without your knowledge or consent.
Find a job – This is especially important if you have stopped working to take care of your family or if you stopped studying when you got married. Aside from making financial decisions simpler for you personally,it also helps you gain a stronger self esteem throughout the divorce process.